加一首天堂母愛歌
母親 – 林亞葉 (1901 – 1988)
中国 廣東 中山縣
前言:-
母亲来自一个简单的乡村家庭。她从父母的传统生活方式中长大，父母拥有一个中等大小的农场来养家糊口，剩下的都在当地市场上出售。家庭中每个有能力的人都必须在农场工作。
母亲长大后，必须帮助外婆做家务和洗衣服，以保持场所清洁。当外婆忙于照顾年幼的孩子时，母亲学会了用柴火烧炉子煮饭和烧水。不久外婆不得不教她做午餐和晚餐。
作为一个年轻女孩，我的母亲(Lim Ah Yapp), 在其父母的安排下被迫与一个生病的青少年结婚以抵制其中的“疾病恶魔”。他病得太重，无法参加婚礼，以至于用公鸡代替了他。这个把戏没有效果，所以他没有活过来。他的家人指责母亲是不祥人，所以她后来被严厉地当作仆人对待。母亲被严厉地对待，就像仆人，洗衣服，为全家成员挑水作为沐浴水，去森林砍木材做饭和取暖。按照中国古老的传统，那些新婚的妇女如果被认为是不祥，不准回娘家。母亲别无选择也无法回娘家.
在如此恶劣的生活条件下，她绝望了；她和几个朋友（女佣）秘密地离开了自己的村庄，然后去了城市，那里有许多新的发展项目。他们聚在一起租一个小地方，每天出去冒险寻找任何体力劳动工作。母亲和几个朋友由于以前的野外工作而身体强壮，他们在一家公路建设公司找到了工作。他们甚至可以与其他男工竞争，使用锤子和凿子将较大的岩石破碎成小石块，然后手动运送到路边。
她在森林里收集岩石时，听说很多人要出国到“南洋” 寻找高薪工作。
在那个时代，移民被英国商业化了。那些打算移民人买不起船票，被授予信用证或契约合同的海上船票。抵达后，契约劳动者受到雇主的约束，并受其合同条款和条件的约束。信贷移民被拘留在船上，直到招募者为他们找到雇主为止。这些移民过着像牲畜一样的生活，中国人称其为“养猪业”。
母亲很幸运。一个在中国访问的家庭找到了工作并在中国雇用了她，但仍然像“猪”一样被卖掉了，她的雇主付给了她通行证，她必须签订一份为期两年的无薪合同。她的雇主和他的家人将母亲带回纳闽 (Labuan)作为女佣工作。
她在纳闽很开心，虽然没有工资，但是雇主提供了食物和住宿。而不是家乡的贫困状况。她的雇主是纳闽壳牌公司的高级职员。她努力工作直到完成两年的合同。她还为其他人做一些洗衣工作，以赚取额外的钱。她计划在合同完成时有了她的积蓄，她可以计划继续前进。
大约在同一时间，父亲担任厨师。雇主是纳闽壳牌公司的董事总经理。作为厨师的父亲必须穿全白制服, 作为一个单身男人，他请妈妈帮忙洗衣服。他们就是这样成为朋友并彼此相爱。
这是有关文莱壳牌的一些历史。 1929年在诗里亚(Seria)发现石油时，壳牌公司将其纳闽总部迁至诗里亚。因此，父亲的雇主，常务董事必须将一切和员工移至诗里亚。父亲问母亲是否愿意和他一起搬到诗里亚，母亲当然愿意，但是她的合同还有6个月才完成。因此，有了他们用他们的积蓄，还清了合同，他们也搬到了诗里亚。在诗里亚定居后，父亲继续担任壳牌董事总经理的厨师。母亲成为家庭女佣，负责洗烫衣服.
1930年他们在馬来奕（Kuala Belait）在英国居民指定的海外华人婚姻登记了他们的婚姻，领取了证书.
这些被称为“土楼”，本质上是圆形防御工事的堡垒被称为土楼（Tulou）本质上是抵制入侵的圆形堡垒。在土楼的中间，有一个地下水井供这个土楼的每个家庭使用.。
客家妇女戴传统的客家帽子，称为“凉帽”
我在母亲的艰苦跋涉之旅中增加了一首好听的客家歌；因为100年前我们的父母来自传统客家文化的省份移居汶来國，他们非常努力工作并做出了很多牺牲，以便养育我们的8个兄弟姊妹，为我们提供更好的教育，直到他们成年,就業成家。我们會说客家话，我们的孩子也可以.我希望我们的后代不要忘记自己的根基，并从这段视频中了解更多来自客家的传统文化
请坐下来，放松身心，欣赏优美的歌曲，以了解歌词的含义。
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词曲： 楊友财
REFLECTIONS 反思
母亲茫然随第三波逐流 , 母亲妳在追寻什么 ? 为了生活妳们四处奔波却在命运中交错.留住我们的根. 妈妈我好想妳, 我第一次有成绩 最激动的是你 ，我第一次绝望时 ，呼唤的是你 ，我第一次懂事时 ，夸奖的是你, 媽媽我们永遠記得妳對我们的恩情
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Appreciations
作者家庭小组对以下团队合作的个人表示感谢 我们也对作曲家和歌手的优美歌曲表示赞赏，谢谢
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Memories of The Way We Were 
Received email from Yun Yin Huang, Edmonton Canada
20 August 2020 @ 14:23 (1 hour ago) to me
Hello See Kui,
I received your article written in Chinese entitled “My Mother’s Journey of Destiny” . I read it with great interest & also with great admiration for your mother’s courage & indomitable decision to leave China to advocate for her own destiny. Later, after meeting your late father & marrying him, together they worked hard & created a legacy for the Chong & Yapp couple’s descendants many of which still reside in Brunei today.
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Thank you Yun Yin for your encouraging comment. Your comment that most of us are still in Brunei except our youngest sister, Vivien, migrated to Australia with her husband in 1971. It just comes to though, “why we are still in Brunei while many of our school mates and friends continue their journey to other countries?” Your parents came to KB and started a very successful business in KB in the late 1940’s yet they moved on to another country; would you like to share their story? I hope those reading this story would join in this subject of discussions. I think I should think about writing the next episode to explore further with my brothers and sister?
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Good, here i present a short and sweet story. I remember when i was young my parents made a beautiful and caring word, every person is lucky to have loving and caring parents, the most important secure and solid pillar of our life, they touch and influenced us to do right things, to go right path and many more things. in our life our parents seems to be like a god for us, they fulfilled our all needs and willing, they were with us and supported us in any phrase of life. They screfliced so many things for us, they did it because they love us so much. parents always knew that their children better than anyone else. but some of the people never understant the importance of parents in their life.
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Very good sharing. Strong and courage and resilient woman I respected. Give her life to family. I was deeply touched by the messages and songs.
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Received comments from Dr Marcus Chen Yu Wei, Melbourne Victoria, Australia on 16 March 2024 as follows:- ”Hello Uncle See Kui thank you very much for sending these photographs. I have not seen many of these before so thank you I have read the stories of your mum and dad on your website and these have been extremely valuable for us to understand the detailed story of the family history. They are very interesting and well written and make us all feel so grateful for all the hardships they endured to raise the family and allow us all to enjoy the life that we have. Because we do not have as detailed and understanding of our grandparents from my dad’s side this has motivated me to find out the story. Best wishes from Dr Marcus Chen Yu Wei Google tranmslation : “我在你们的网站上读过你们父母的故事，这些对我们了解家族历史的详细故事非常有价值。他们非常有趣，写得很好，让我们所有人都非常感激他们为养家糊口所经历的一切艰辛，让我们所有人都能享受我们所拥有的生活。因为我们对我父亲那边的祖父母没有那么详细和了解，这促使我发现这个故事。澳大利亚维多利亚州墨尔本的 Dr Marcus Chen 有伟博士致以最良好的祝愿”
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Received WhatsApp message from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia, on 16 March 2024 as below :-
“I have read the stories of your mum and dad on your website and these have been extremely valuable for us to understand the detailed story of the family history. They are very interesting and well written and make us all feel so grateful for all the hardships they endured to raise the family and allow us all to enjoy the life that we have. Because we do not have as detailed and understanding of our grandparents from my dad’s side this has motivated me to find out the story. ” Best wishes, from Dr. Yu Wei, from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia 16 March 2924
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